The Act of Service

According to some articles (i.e. DW and CNBC), there were an increase in dating app use during the Covid-19 time. The articles also said that people spent more time using the app. I use dating app on and off. Sometimes the people I met in the app were just too much. I have also been scammed once although since the person was too weird in the sense, saying love too fast and sending words that looked copied from elsewhere, I knew that he was fake. So when he sent me some bubbly words, I Googled it and found that he copied them from Facebook. Also when he sent me a contract of his work in an oil company, I used reverse image and found a similar story with the same contract in the scam survivor website. He played for the long run, it took him a month with daily communication until he showed me the contract. According to scam survivor, the pattern is usually approach, sending a contract, promising to visit and then being caught in the immigration and asking the victim to send the scammers money. For my case, after he showed me his contract, I silent treatment him and he did not contact me anymore.

I don't like confrontation. So I use to solve problem by ignoring people. I think I accumulate bad karma for this approach although (as a justification) I thought that's the main approach in dating app. If you are not into someone after both of you swipe right, then just ignore the person. But somehow, some people who I am in contact with keep on messaged me on daily basis. I think this the effect of covid-19, making people more persistent.

I don't know, it's quite difficult to fall in love to people I meet online. Probably, because I am not really touched by sweet words. I am more touched with the act of service like when someone asked me to do small things for me, or contacted me for a problem I posted in a group and offered to help. Therefore, being in an artificial communication such as dating app is kind of suffocating since people only say nice words for the sake of approaching the person at the other end.

Because of the covid-19, I got many good mornings and I forget which profile belong to what name. I thought I would like the attention but apparently, if you don't have feeling for the persons, answering these greetings become painful since you don't want to create expectation for the persons you are talking with.