It's been a week without him and I don't think there is going to be we anymore, or it was never even been one since the beginning. After trying to rationalize the whole process by watching about the context of marriage in his culture, I realized that he was never considered me as a possible partner simple because his society won't accept it. He never intended to bring our relationship into real life since it's not an option, while for me, I have been looking for possibilities to have an inter-countries marriage. We were on a different page of a book and I should realize it sooner.
In sociology, the concept of otherness refers to exclusion, an idea of not taking into account the excluded person well-being simply because s/he is not part of us. We take care of 'us' but don't really think about 'them' because they are not part of us. I realize that the hard way.
I am still tempted to text him since I need the substance. But after being one week clear, I don't want to repeat the same pain as the beginning of the breakup. If he can live without me, I should be able to do the same.
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