Day 15: Blood is Thicker Than Water

I finished watching 'A Suitable Boy', a miniseries adopted from Vikram Seth's novel with the same title. The setting was taken in India after independence and separation from Pakistan. It is an interesting story by itself how culture, politic and religious tensions were taking place and how people were struggling in finding their identity between tradition and post-colonialism. But what made the series especially dear to me is to understand the arranged marriage culture and the role of family in deciding spouse for their children. I am still amazed how a person can married somebody else based on a single picture, no interaction, no talk and betting the rest of his or her life with the selected person. But probably, if they have the same intention, Allah SWT will make it easy for them.

I am quite amazed with how the story evolve for Lata, one of the main characters. [SPOLIER] Initially, she was in love with a Muslim guy, which would never been approved by her Hindu family. She asked Kabir, the guy to runaway with her but he refused since it's not rationally visible due to their current status as students. Lata felt disappointed with Kabir's decision and followed her mother's decision to find a 'suitable boy' for Lata. 

What I am amazed that Lata can be content with what her mother asked her to do. She could move on and fall for two other guys before deciding to marry what her mother has chosen for her. It's like all her love and desires for Kabir were nothing. I think the biggest turning point for her was when she visited Maan and he told Lata that he was being grateful for his father's love for him. That's when Lata realized that everything that her mother do was for her own sake. 

In one of my crazy scenarios, elope is one of the things that crossed my mind. But man's responsibility is for his mother and wife. Also if we do get married, his family is going to be mine as well and I won't do nothing like that to my own family. So yeah, elope is only in my mind where we can live happily in the third country.